4 Habits to Kick as We Get Closer to 2019

Let’s admit it girls. We all have habits that we need to get rid of before we toast cheers to 2019.  Carrying bad habits create unnecessary weights that can ultimately kill us our journey.  When we continue to allow negative habits to plague our lives, slowly but surely the light at the end of the tunnel will become dim.


Your ability to bounce back

is a testimony for your comeback!


Remember your why.  I’m in the process of planning a new venture, which is why I have not been busy with One Faith Journey.  Please forgive me.  (This is my confession girls) I’m having to make sure that I plan out my days, weeks, and the entire month ahead, including how I engage with you.  There are times where we may fall off the wagon a bit or even a few times due to busyness, family changes, work changes but always remember to find ways to bounce back. Your ability to bounce back is a testimony for your comeback!


As we coast into the 4th quarter of the year, ready to make that touch down, let’s commit to get rid of some habits that can and will hold us back from making the best of 2019.  We cannot, I repeat, we cannot take bad habits into 2019.  You are guaranteed to fail if you don’t kick these habits out the door.

  1. The Need to Please– We’ve all been bit by this bug and for some people this is not an issue.  BUT for those of us that have the bite mark still on us I want to encourage you to quit worrying about what others think.  Quit trying to appease to others.  What others think and want from you does not matter in terms of success.  Now don’t get me wrong, you have people in your tribe who want the best for you. They matter.  But for the naysayers, the questioners, the people who feel they have all the answers.  Bye Bye! You have to determine within yourself that no matter where you are on your journey, other people cannot and will not determine your level of joy.
  2. Stop Procrastination– Raise your hand if  you struggle with this! Me! Burning the midnight oil produces my best work.  For real ladies, it does.  But in reality the procrastination bug creates a sense of unnecessary rush and it takes away from my ability to rest.  My mind starts racing with all the words, work, thoughts, ideas trying to put pieces together as I get closer to the deadline.  When you have a deadline to complete a task, allow yourself some time daily to work towards the deadline.  You’ll walk away feeling more confident and accomplished in your work.
  3. Delaying Actions– The bible tells us to write the vision.  So many times we have written out our vision, given it to God and yet, we are afraid to move forward with our actions.  This fear comes because we want to know the outcome.  In this 4th quarter God wants to put our faith to work.  Pray away that fear and put your trust in Him.  There is no way for us to know the outcome for everything unless He shows us.  Your faith will become stronger if you only trust Him.  Your vision will come pass if you only trust Him.  The best thing you can do right now in this 4th quarter is take your leap of faith (and as I’m typing this, I’m speaking to myself).  When God gives you the vision, put your faith to work and watch God work!
  4. Taking on Too Much– I have to keep talking about this because I hear people say how tired they are or how much they are overwhelmed.  I want to encourage you to stop doing the work for people, stop overcommiting yourself, and stop saying yes to things that may take you away from your God-given tasks, tasks that will bring Him glory.  For example, I had to press pause on some tasks at church.  But it’s the work of the Lord, Tamika.  You’re right.  However, my first ministry is at home and when things became overwhelming in all that I was doing in church ministry, home became a second priority and that is not how God calls us to lead as mothers, wives, friends, etc. Take heed to the voice of God and allow Him to direct your path so that you know where your “Yes Lord” answers need to go.  For some it may be comforting a friend in need. For others it may be turning down a girls night out to minister to the homeless.  You may be a wife, daughter, leader, church facilitator or whatever.  When God can get the glory out of all we do, we are giving our best Yes.

Will you join me during this 4th quarter to kick these habits out the window? Will you join in me surrendering our fears, our procrastination, our busy schedules and our need to please over to God?

Here is a simple prayer to get us started on our journey toward a successful 4th quarter:

Lord we come boldly before your throne thanking you for your continuous grace and mercy for it is by your grace that we have not been consumed.  You gave us visions for our homes, our families, our businesses, our jobs, our marriages, and our lives because you know the plans you have for us.  Lord we surrender our fears, our need to please, our procrastination habits, and any other habit that may  hinder us we wrap up the year.  We trust that you will continue to be a lamp unto our feet and guide our paths so that we can give our best yes to your will because you deserve all of the glory.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

It’s a faith journey y’all.  We have to be pray for consistency in all facets of our lives so that we can get this touch down into 2019! Feel free to comment on how I can pray with you for a successful year end for your family, your life, your leadership, your business or any area in your life.

Blessings!

Tamika W.

P.S. I’m releasing some goodies this month.  Podcast coming this week & the weekly planner is ready to send next week.  If you are a subscriber, you’ll be the first to get a copy.  If you’re not subscribing do so today.

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Every Mom Longs for Peace

Have you seen the commercial where the mom packs up everything, walks out the door and forgets the kids? I love that commercial because it speaks to the everyday mom. I know our days can be rushed, frazzled, and not enough time to do all that we have to do. We spend so much time making sure the bills are paid, the clothes are folded, the snacks are packed, the children feel loved, the team feels appreciated that we often forget about us. Our plates are indeed full. If you haven’t read that post, I suggest you go back and read it. Click here >>>>> Your Plate is FULL. Please Tell Them No.

As the week comes to a close, I want to remind the busy moms to chill for a bit.  Unrush your life, honor your time, and enjoy you. Now some of these may sting a little bit but I want you to envision some peace in your life. Kind of hard I know. After all, what would your household be without you. We live zombie, chaotic lives with little sleep, brooms in one arm, keys in our mouth, work bags around our necks, hubbies holding our hand, and little ones tugging at our hearts for attention.

Seriously, to be our best, we have to invite some peaceful times in our life or else our best self will be a complete mess. Doing these things will give you time to meditate, get clarity, and chat with God. The word of God tells us to cast our cares on Him and the peace of God will guard your heart and minds in Christ.  I know this to be true.  I’m sure you do too.  When we spend some time in His peace, we rest in knowing that all else will be cared for by our Heavenly father.  Be sure to take these steps and honor some time for yourself.

Remember, it’s a faith journey y’all.  No matter where you are in the hustle of life you must faith!

honoring mommy time

The Powerful No Leads to a Best Yes

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Day Two Reflection:

Let’s be real ladies.  There are only 24 hours in a day and 7 days in week.  Where in the world do we have the room to squeeze in “just one more thing”. But here is the problem with us.  Saying yes is easy while saying no is simply too hard.  For some odd reason, no seems to carry this negative connotation.  It our minds ‘No’ is a rejection; something bad.  The problem is when we don’t say ‘No’, we are adding more to our lives than we should.  I read a blog post about this same topic and it said “saying yes to everything means you have no time for anything.” You can’t possibly go to every event when you’re invited.  You can’t have coffee every time your friend calls.  You can’t volunteer for every service project.  You can’t bake the cookies for every school bake sale.  You can’t lead every group study. You are one person.  You can’t do it all.

“Saying yes all the time won’t make me Wonder Woman. It will make me a worn out woman”Chapter 12: The Awkward Disappointment of Saying No from The Best Yes

What does no really mean in our lives?  Often times we pray for something.  We want God to give us the green light to ‘go’.  We want to hear a yes from Him.  However, we get a ‘No’.  Not for you. Not your time. Not right now. Days, weeks, or months go by and we begin to understand His ‘No’.  It was for our own good.  Even God gives us a powerful no so that He can give us a Best Yes.  And guess what?  He wants you to learn the Powerful No.  Remember yesterday’s post was about wisdom.  I hope you were encouraged to know that every decision you make, you should include God in your decision-making.  See the connection here.  When we are wise in our decision-making, we get to give our Best Yes! The reason why you need to say no to the PTA bake sale is because it is going to take up too much of your time organizing it and that time could have taken away from the task God was going to place on your to-do list. Or maybe your child will need some extra TLC after feeling defeated from a game. Or your husband finds out he is getting a promotion and wants to celebrate the good.  We never know how we may need to be in position for a best yes.  For a task that would bring God glory and honor.  We just never know what God has in store for us and if we are too busy, we can’t make room for the Best Yes.  Besides, you did the bake sale last year.  Let someone else do that.

Here is the point:

  1. Don’t feel bad if you say no.  I promise there are several people after you who will say yes.
  2. Acknowledge God in your decision-making.  He will never steer you wrong.
  3. Save room on your schedule for you.  There is nothing wrong with saying no so that you can unwind and relax.

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Decision-making. Ugh. Should I say yes or no? @LysaTerKeurst is showing me there’s another choice: #TheBestYes. (http://goo.gl/ZFUZbD)

Decide what is important to you and start prioritizing things in your life.  Make room in your life to give God, your family, your ministry your Best Yes!  Why is it hard for you to say no?  Is there something you need to remove from your plate to give more time to other important tasks?  Comment. Like. Share.

Stay tuned for Day Three Reflection &  remember, it’s a faith journey!

Tamika W.

PS:  The graphic from The Best Yes was from an old blogger tour by Lysa TerKeurst.  She is a phenomenal author.  This book is available on Amazon, Proverbs 31, Barnes & Noble, Lifeway, and other outlets.  If you want to learn more and go deeper with this topic, I suggest adding it to your reading list.  You won’t regret it!

3 Ways to Wrap Up the School Year

Schools out for summer! The teachers have done an excellent job this year (I hope) and so have your children. As a former classroom teacher, this time of year gets super busy- closing out grade books, determining summer school needs, conferencing with parents, field day, graduation. The list goes on and on and on!

Many parents have summer plans laid out for their children to include summer camps, vacations and trips to grandma’s house. But as an educator, I urge parents to take some extra steps before school officially ends. These three steps are crucial to helping your children avoid the summer learning dip and to stay on target for the next school term:

  1. Have an end of the year conference with the teachers. I know you think this is crazy and not necessary but hear me out. The final report card will give you a grade point average, some computer generated comments and school info. It doesn’t tell you the skills your child may be lacking to prepare for the next grade level. Chat with the teachers to find out what your child can practice over the summer. Ask for free resources as well. Believe me, they are throwing stuff away this time of year. Find out what your child’s standardized test scores are and what do they mean as it relates to progressing to the next level.
  2. Ask what type of books your child likes to read and set some goals for summer reading. I know schools give out extensive book lists for required reading BUT your child may have his/her own interests and those are important too. Make reading a priority as a home. Turn off the tube, social media and engage in reading. Yes, you too. And don’t forget about math practice. There are so many ways to keep math going during the summer through cooking, gardening, sports, weather predictions, charts and graphs, trips and much more. Be innovative so that math is fun.
  3. If you don’t know the Principal, meet with him/her to discuss any concerns and offer to assist when you have time. Not only will you give back through service but you’ll get a chance to be a part of the school community. Ways to volunteer include serving on a school improvement council, joining the Parent-teacher organization, putting up or taking down boards for teachers, helping in the media center, reading to classes, assisting at sporting or extracurricular events or lending a hand wherever you may be needed. Offer your support and watch the impact you’ll have.

Wrapping up the school year is much more than just receiving a report card, going to field day or handing out tasty treats on a field trip. With the current state of education we all have to jump in and be a voice for our children, teachers and education as a whole. As the saying goes, “the mind is a terrible thing to waste.” So, look at your calendar and start on this list. I promise you won’t regret it and you’ll be much appreciated by my fellow educators.

Remember, no matter where you are in the hustle of life, you must have faith!

Tamika W.

PS. Let me know what you think or what else should be added to this list, especially if you’re an educator or very involved parent. And…feel free to share with someone else. 😉

No one Said It Would Be Easy…And It’s Not!

pexels-photo-89695.jpegIt took me a while to get here….this blogging thing that is. As I sit, well stand with one eye penning this and the other on my daughter, I have to say how thankful I am to God for such a beautiful blessing He has bestowed upon me and my husband. Everything I thought about parenting including all the judgement of other moms I completely throw away and ask for forgiveness for thinking how ‘is this so hard as they say’! It is hard, tiring, overwhelming, full of tears and sleepless nights. But when I see Faith’s bright eyes staring back at me or hear her cooing in her sleep like she is doing now, I realize that this second job I was given is worth it. I would be telling the untruth if I said I don’t miss my get-up-and-go days, which now consists of get-up-and-pack-her- extra clothes, car seats, breast pump (ANOTHER STORY), milk, and yes, the baby. No one said this would be easy. Not one single person in my life said it would be easy. I have yet to find what works for me as I am still learning this little girl. I’ve learned her ‘feed me now’ cries and ‘I’m sleepy’ cries but as she gets use to this new world and learn to make waves each day, so will daddy and I continue learning with her….and for the record, I’m not rushing this learning process. Sometimes I feel like parenting in today’s society is such a huge race and competition. There is always this chat among moms “oh my child did this at that age’ or ‘your baby’s not doing that yet’. As for me, I’m going to keep crying while still enjoying the moments. No one said it would be easy. And my tears are tears of “Lord am I doing this right?” “Am I nurturing her like you would have me to?”

You know God is so funny. I know He is laughing at me like, Tamika, didn’t I tell you to do what I said do. I had to learn to tune everyone out. Advice from people can be overwhelming and I’m not able to hide me feelings off my face. I will tell you what I have learned is that every baby is different so no matter what this woman’s baby did or is doing, your experience will be different. I’ve learned that I have to continue to listen to God and trust Him in everything, and I mean everything. He laughs at me and wipes those tears from my eyes. This parenting process is a wonderful experience. I just keep reminding myself that I’m not expected to be the perfect mom and this road of parenting is not easy. At the same token I’m also reminded that all the tools I need God will give to me. And every day He continues to supply all the tools I need to be successful. Now I’m just trying to figure out how to balance it all…but that’s another day of writing. When you seem like every day is a rush of parenting, working, wife-ing, balancing (or unbalancing), friending, caring, and everything else you do, you may sometimes begin to to feel overwhelmed, tired, and restless. Remember, to cast your cares on Him (I Peter 5:7).  Your tears, your fears, your doubts, your anger, your restless and weary days too for the bible says He cares for you and when you care for someone, you do your best to take care of them. That’s the awesome God we serve! He doesn’t want us to compete with each other. He doesn’t want us to think we can do it all by ourselves. He wants us to depend on Him. Totally. With our wholeheart. Trust me, its worth to give it all to Him!

Be inspired & remember its a faith journey y’all!

Tamika W.