The Powerful No Leads to a Best Yes

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Day Two Reflection:

Let’s be real ladies.  There are only 24 hours in a day and 7 days in week.  Where in the world do we have the room to squeeze in “just one more thing”. But here is the problem with us.  Saying yes is easy while saying no is simply too hard.  For some odd reason, no seems to carry this negative connotation.  It our minds ‘No’ is a rejection; something bad.  The problem is when we don’t say ‘No’, we are adding more to our lives than we should.  I read a blog post about this same topic and it said “saying yes to everything means you have no time for anything.” You can’t possibly go to every event when you’re invited.  You can’t have coffee every time your friend calls.  You can’t volunteer for every service project.  You can’t bake the cookies for every school bake sale.  You can’t lead every group study. You are one person.  You can’t do it all.

“Saying yes all the time won’t make me Wonder Woman. It will make me a worn out woman”Chapter 12: The Awkward Disappointment of Saying No from The Best Yes

What does no really mean in our lives?  Often times we pray for something.  We want God to give us the green light to ‘go’.  We want to hear a yes from Him.  However, we get a ‘No’.  Not for you. Not your time. Not right now. Days, weeks, or months go by and we begin to understand His ‘No’.  It was for our own good.  Even God gives us a powerful no so that He can give us a Best Yes.  And guess what?  He wants you to learn the Powerful No.  Remember yesterday’s post was about wisdom.  I hope you were encouraged to know that every decision you make, you should include God in your decision-making.  See the connection here.  When we are wise in our decision-making, we get to give our Best Yes! The reason why you need to say no to the PTA bake sale is because it is going to take up too much of your time organizing it and that time could have taken away from the task God was going to place on your to-do list. Or maybe your child will need some extra TLC after feeling defeated from a game. Or your husband finds out he is getting a promotion and wants to celebrate the good.  We never know how we may need to be in position for a best yes.  For a task that would bring God glory and honor.  We just never know what God has in store for us and if we are too busy, we can’t make room for the Best Yes.  Besides, you did the bake sale last year.  Let someone else do that.

Here is the point:

  1. Don’t feel bad if you say no.  I promise there are several people after you who will say yes.
  2. Acknowledge God in your decision-making.  He will never steer you wrong.
  3. Save room on your schedule for you.  There is nothing wrong with saying no so that you can unwind and relax.

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Decision-making. Ugh. Should I say yes or no? @LysaTerKeurst is showing me there’s another choice: #TheBestYes. (http://goo.gl/ZFUZbD)

Decide what is important to you and start prioritizing things in your life.  Make room in your life to give God, your family, your ministry your Best Yes!  Why is it hard for you to say no?  Is there something you need to remove from your plate to give more time to other important tasks?  Comment. Like. Share.

Stay tuned for Day Three Reflection &  remember, it’s a faith journey!

Tamika W.

PS:  The graphic from The Best Yes was from an old blogger tour by Lysa TerKeurst.  She is a phenomenal author.  This book is available on Amazon, Proverbs 31, Barnes & Noble, Lifeway, and other outlets.  If you want to learn more and go deeper with this topic, I suggest adding it to your reading list.  You won’t regret it!

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3 Ways to Keep Your Faith In Check

eye-female-funny-glass-41558.jpegLet’s admit it girls. Some days, weeks, months or seasons get so busy we may forget to check in with God consistently.  I know as a mom, if I’m not conscious about how I’m spending my time, prayer and devotion just might escape me.  Not good. But we are human.  Sometimes we get caught up in the rush of life that we limit our relationship with God to a few minutes here and there just to check it off the to-do list. Done.  But you and I both know when we put God on the to-do list, life seems to get a SUPER crazy. Out of whack. And when the dust settles, we look at how we have put God on a shelf like a book. The thing I like about our God is that He knows and He will definitely nudge us to remind us when we are drifting away.

I keep telling you that I’m working on being calendar driven-some days are better than others.  What is important is that we carve out meaningful time with God.  Maybe you don’t know where to start and honey that is ok as long as you start.  Or in my case restart.  The time we spend with God has be intentional and consistent as it helps us draw closer to Him, grow in our faith, and experience everlasting peace and joy in Him.

There are many ways to spend time with Him-prayer, reading His word, singing His praises, joining a women’s group or even sharing His goodness with others.  If you feel that you are drifting away or need quick ways to keep your faith in check, how about this:

  1. Set aside some time each day to read a devotional or simply open the bible and read it.  There are a million devotionals online and in print that are connected to God’s word and His principles for life. Try this FREE 30-day devotional and bible reading guide created just for busy women like us.  Click here for your FREEBIE ====>> 30 Days with God
  2. Spend the first 5 minutes of your day in prayer and giving thanks to God for His many blessings.  What a great way to get your day going.  But… if the first 5 minutes does not work for you (not a morning person like me), be sure to carve out some quiet time throughout the day-on your lunch break, when the kiddos are napping, when the household is sleeping. You get it.
  3. Share your faith and testimonies of your experiences with others.  Not only will you inspire someone else but you will be reminded of just how good God is to you.  You can do this by joining a group online or in your church or posting your blessings instead of your messiness.  Doing so is a great way to stay connected to the Master and a way to get people connected to Him.

Maybe you are not in a dry season in your faith. Or maybe you know someone who is. Whatever it may be, I would love to hear from you on ways you keep your faith in check.  Leave a comment, like, & share. I’m sure it will inspire others 😉

Remember, it’s a faith journey y’all.  No matter where you are in the hustle of life, you got to have faith!

Tamika W.