Goals for the Gold


Today I was thinking about my goal-setting habits and realized that I need to refine this habit to be more productive and efficient for my short and long-term goals.  As I was thinking about goal-setting (or my lack thereof lately), I thought about the Olympics.  As much as I love sports, I’m not a fan of the Olympics but this past winter, I was intrigued by the 2018 Winter Olympics for some reason.  You would not believe which sport I watched and kept track of? Definitely not skiing. Bobsledding or as said in the olympic world ‘bobsleigh’.  I’m not sure why I was interested but I tuned in during my morning breaks to catch up or watch live.  I learned so many interesting facts about the sport:

  1. The first push of acceleration is very important.
  2. The pilot and brakeman have to be in sync with one another with timely jumps into the sled.
  3. Flexibility is key as you fit two bodies into a tiny sled. Some on their heels while the driver sits.
  4. Friction can slow you down and cause you to lose the race by hundredths of a second.
  5. The pilot sees everything.  One pilots said he never tells his teammates about what’s ahead and tells them it was a good trip.
  6. Physics plays a huge part in bobsledding. Sledders have to be very careful of their moves to avoid crashing.

So how does this relate to setting goals Tamika? Simple.

1. Pushing yourself to get started on your goals is very important.  The first push propels you; it gets your started.

2. Timeliness is important.  There is nothing like setting a goal to get something completed in a week and you haven’t considered your family, your work schedule, or other things you are working on as well.  Make sure you set realistic goals while considering other tasks on your schedule.

3. When hammering out your plan, be flexible.  If you set out to read daily for 30 minutes and something comes up, find ways to squeeze some time in or spread the extra minutes throughout the week.

4.  What are some things that bring hindrance to your life? Consider the “friction” and find ways to avoid it so that you don’t lose sight of your goal.

5.  This is my favorite one. Who is the pilot in your life? In bobsledding the pilot plays a huge role in the success of the team.  My pilot is God.  He sees everything that lies ahead of us.  He guides our path and gives us what we need to be successful.

6. You have the power to put things in motion.  Just put little force behind it, some motivation that is. We are already in August.  The third quarter of the year is coming to a close soon folks.  What declarations did you make over your life?  What daily affirmations are you telling yourself to push you closer to your dreams?  What goals do you need to set in order to end 2018 with shouting bang?

I know we live in an virtual, online world.  Shopping, chatting, connecting with people are all at our finger tips.  HOWEVER…. There is something about the power of writing.  The formation of the letters as you write.  Write out your goals. The pen, the paper and your brain will connect when you do this.  It’s powerful y’all!

In order to live your best life, you have to stop wishing and start working so take your first step toward your destiny.  Write your goals to win the gold!

Need help with goals for your marriage?  Check out our latest podcast Faith & Marriage: Making Time for Spouse & Self Episode 5.

Need a reality check about your progress? Check out Progress Ain’t Pretty.

Ready to celebrate some successes big or small? Read this post for some ideas/inspiration Celebration Time 4 You! 

Remember, it’s a faith journey y’all!

Blessings, blessings, and more blessings to you!

Tamika W.


5 Steps to Finding Your Why

I love this topic of finding our ‘why’ or our purpose!  Why? Because everyone has a purpose.  It has been destined before the beginning of time.  We all have a reason that is often bigger than what we think or believe about ourselves.

If you’re feeling a little stuck in figuring out the purpose of your idea or finding your purpose at all, check out these few steps to help you along the way.  And if you’re feeling stuck, you can listen to Episode 3: I’m Stuck for some encouragement.

Because we serve an awesome God, remember, you are destined for greatness!

4 Steps to Finding Your WHY-1


To Give Life Your Best Yes, Seek Wisdom

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Journey back a few weeks with me when I wrote about this topic of learning to say no so that you can give your best yes.  This idea of the Best Yes comes from a book I read by Lysa TurKest.  Last month, I was all set to start a new series and then one day my little engine said to me, “I can no longer move forward.” It stopped. Screech! Out of gas.  I was in need of some time for rest, reflection and rejuvenation.  After a week off and some thoughtful planning, here we go with the five day challenge of how do we give life our best yes.  Forgot post, check it out here ====>>>> Be Still

Day One Reflection:

Imagine going through life without knowing how to navigate your circumstances; without knowing how to be financially savvy; without knowing right from wrong.  You pretty much know how that would look.  A lot of what we decide comes from knowledge and experience.  When it comes to making decisions, we have to be wise.  Wisdom is defined as “the quality of having experience, knowledge and good judgement” (dictionary.com).  We can all admit that there are times when we don’t make wise decisions.

I remember I paid my car off, was six months in my new house, and was making good money as an educator.  In previous years, I helped with the after school program and was told that I would be over the program in the upcoming school year. In my mind, I calculated extra money means I can go buy the car I’ve been eyeing for a few months now.  And I did just that.  I bought a new car. Lo and behold, new administration came in the building and decided to use the old program coordinator, and that meant no extra money for me.  Needless to say, I struggled a few months after buying the car.  I knew that was not a wise decision.  I was quick to satisfy my wants at the time and not my needs.

What does this all mean you may be asking.  Sometimes we cannot give our best yes to the right things because we lack wisdom in saying no.  When we give in to our wants, give in to our fleshly desires, give in to others, we leave no room for what really should be taking place in our lives.  Maybe like me, you made a bad financial decision or maybe you’ve taken on too many tasks and you’re overwhelmed.  It happens to us all.

Let’s think about what would happen if we were wise in our decision-making.  The bible tells us in Psalm 111:10 the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.  The fear here is not talking about being afraid or scared but it is about reverence and honoring God.  When we reverence and honor Him, we know that we cannot do anything without him.  That means we cannot and should not make decisions without Him.  We’ve tried many times in our life to do things on our own, without seeking God and end up crawling right back to Him for direction.  Hello, that’s why Proverbs tells us to trust in the Lord with ALL of our heart and do not lean on your understanding.  Doing things your way?  Tell me how that’s working out for you.  In my car situation, it didn’t work out too good.

“When we have a reverential attitude and look for the hand of God in everything, we start seeing things from the perspective of wisdom.”

The Best Yes Study Guide

So how should we go about getting wisdom and getting better at making wise decisions?  First things first, honor and reverence God at all times.  Acknowledge Him in everything.

  1. Read God’s word.  Make it a habit to dive in the Word consistently.  C  Sometimes we are so busy doing other things or managing our daily lives, that our study time is not a priority.  Let’s all do better (if we are not already) and make it a priority this week.
  2. Apply God’s word.  When the word of God tells us how to forgive, let’s give it a shot.  Forgiveness is huge in our faith walk.  When the word shows us how to increase our faith, let’s give it shot.  Faith is important in our daily journey.  Where the word tells us to show love, let’s do that.  Loving others can be hard at times but your love for someone could be the very thing that leads them to Christ.
  3. Look to God. The scriptures give us direct insight to Christ and how to live.  When we don’t have an answer, ask God wisdom and understanding.  God’s word promises to give us what we need.
  4. Cry out to God. Pray out loud to God and ask Him for what you need.  Ask Him for instruction.  Ask Him for insight.  Ask for guidance.  And when you ask, believe with your whole heart that He will answer your prayer.

In life we have choices.  We can choose to honor God daily, even in our decisions.  For every situation we face, there is an answer.  Think about a situation you may be facing.  Ask yourself ‘what does the Word of God say about my situation?’ Find a scripture and pray the Word over your situation.  Continue to seek wisdom so that you can give life your best yes!

Stay tuned for Day Two Reflection: The Powerful No

What areas of life have you made unwise decisions? How did you overcome? Comment. Like. Share.

Remember, its a faith journey y’all!

Tamika W.