Goals for the Gold


Today I was thinking about my goal-setting habits and realized that I need to refine this habit to be more productive and efficient for my short and long-term goals.  As I was thinking about goal-setting (or my lack thereof lately), I thought about the Olympics.  As much as I love sports, I’m not a fan of the Olympics but this past winter, I was intrigued by the 2018 Winter Olympics for some reason.  You would not believe which sport I watched and kept track of? Definitely not skiing. Bobsledding or as said in the olympic world ‘bobsleigh’.  I’m not sure why I was interested but I tuned in during my morning breaks to catch up or watch live.  I learned so many interesting facts about the sport:

  1. The first push of acceleration is very important.
  2. The pilot and brakeman have to be in sync with one another with timely jumps into the sled.
  3. Flexibility is key as you fit two bodies into a tiny sled. Some on their heels while the driver sits.
  4. Friction can slow you down and cause you to lose the race by hundredths of a second.
  5. The pilot sees everything.  One pilots said he never tells his teammates about what’s ahead and tells them it was a good trip.
  6. Physics plays a huge part in bobsledding. Sledders have to be very careful of their moves to avoid crashing.

So how does this relate to setting goals Tamika? Simple.

1. Pushing yourself to get started on your goals is very important.  The first push propels you; it gets your started.

2. Timeliness is important.  There is nothing like setting a goal to get something completed in a week and you haven’t considered your family, your work schedule, or other things you are working on as well.  Make sure you set realistic goals while considering other tasks on your schedule.

3. When hammering out your plan, be flexible.  If you set out to read daily for 30 minutes and something comes up, find ways to squeeze some time in or spread the extra minutes throughout the week.

4.  What are some things that bring hindrance to your life? Consider the “friction” and find ways to avoid it so that you don’t lose sight of your goal.

5.  This is my favorite one. Who is the pilot in your life? In bobsledding the pilot plays a huge role in the success of the team.  My pilot is God.  He sees everything that lies ahead of us.  He guides our path and gives us what we need to be successful.

6. You have the power to put things in motion.  Just put little force behind it, some motivation that is. We are already in August.  The third quarter of the year is coming to a close soon folks.  What declarations did you make over your life?  What daily affirmations are you telling yourself to push you closer to your dreams?  What goals do you need to set in order to end 2018 with shouting bang?

I know we live in an virtual, online world.  Shopping, chatting, connecting with people are all at our finger tips.  HOWEVER…. There is something about the power of writing.  The formation of the letters as you write.  Write out your goals. The pen, the paper and your brain will connect when you do this.  It’s powerful y’all!

In order to live your best life, you have to stop wishing and start working so take your first step toward your destiny.  Write your goals to win the gold!

Need help with goals for your marriage?  Check out our latest podcast Faith & Marriage: Making Time for Spouse & Self Episode 5.

Need a reality check about your progress? Check out Progress Ain’t Pretty.

Ready to celebrate some successes big or small? Read this post for some ideas/inspiration Celebration Time 4 You! 

Remember, it’s a faith journey y’all!

Blessings, blessings, and more blessings to you!

Tamika W.


Faith & Marriage: Making Time for Spouse & Self Episode 5

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Welcome to “All about Faith” Episode 5.

In this episode, we chat with Ashley Ligon from Unspoken Vows about the importance of faith, self-care, and time with your spouse.  It’s a real conversation with great tips to make the time intentional and meaningful for you and your spouse on your marriage journey.

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6 Reasons You Should Get UnBusy & Get Your Life Back!

pexels-photo-313690.jpegWho is calling me now?  Yes of course it is important; it’s my job.

“Sure.  I’ll be there at 4:30 PM.”

That was always an expectation.  Somebody called. I answered. I added it to my schedule.  Never mind that I was in the midst of planning a wedding and trying to get my life together so that I could be a good wife to my future husband.  At my old job, the days grew longer as the year progressed. What was supposed to be a 5 p.m. end of the day shift turned out to be a 10 p.m. end of the night shift.  I found life passing me by every day until I had enough. I begin to notice some changes in my life that I was not happy about. Here they are and if you find yourself doing these things I have some advice for you too!

  1. You start forgetting important LIFE events- birthdays, anniversaries, special moments, invitations. You get the gist of what I’m saying.  When you forget your girls night out, arrive late to your date, or miss your child’s school concert, something has to give. How in the world could I forget to call my mom on her birthday.  Really Tamika!
  2. There is a project left undone in your house.  All that money you spent on those supplies-the paint, the wood, the fabric or whatever it is. The project is now collecting dust.  There is a reason you started a new house project or danced down the aisle in Michael’s when you found the supplies to make those scarves.  It brought a fresh sense of tranquility. A purpose. A new perspective. An accomplishment. What happened?
  3. Your car is no longer a car- it’s your clothes closet, powder room and/or office.  I’m so ashamed. This was me. I had a pair of flats, heels, make up bag, and some office supplies in my trunk.  Lunch time with the co-workers…HA! I was praying someone would say “I’ll drive.” Make up in the car driving down I-77.  Someone should have called the cops on me. Y’all know that is SO dangerous but we do it anyway.
  4. You have not seen your family in weeks.  Now if you live states away from family, of course this does not apply to you.  BUT for us folk who have family that lives 10 minutes or 30 minutes away, we got some ‘splainin to do.
  5. Your bedroom looks like the Goodwill drop-off center.  You’ve separated the color clothes, the casual clothes, the white clothes.  All the clothes are in piles. When you do laundry, you find space in an empty room and pick your clothes out of the laundry piles.  We don’t even iron anymore. Just throw it in the dryer and let the dryer work its magic.
  6. Your meals are fast food and on-the-go.  You keep saying you’re going to the grocery store tomorrow. Tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes. Two months later you’re starting to feel the extra pounds pack on, clothes out the the laundry piles don’t fit.  You’re getting frustrated and feeling defeated. Yep. That was me.

Get your life back on track.  For me, it meant leaving work at work.  When the bosses left at 5 p.m., I followed suit.  I started working every day to prioritize what was important.  I created a to do list at work and what didn’t get done was left for tomorrow.  We have to start looking at life from a different lens where we are not working more than we are living.

I have become a scheduler and some folks think that may be sad but it works for me.  My life is a calendar because I have to make sure I’m giving attention to the things that are important to me- my husband, my child, my family, my church, and my hobbies. Try a wall calendar so that you can plan out the month, make notes on the side, and see the month-at-a-glance or how about for free go to Microsoft Word and create a monthly or daily calendar.  We love all things FREE!

As far as family, plan some game nights, dates nights (I need to do this one for real), sports nights, park visits.  Do something. Family first. Enough said.

As for my health, I had to get on a plan and make it work.  We plan our menus and shop weekly according to our meal plans.  Right now we are on a clean eating journey with Dr. Ian Smith’s latest book, The Clean 20.  I love this book because the meals are already planned, the menu options are tasty and the suggested exercises can be done in the comfort of your home.

We get one shot at this thing called life so take some time this week to ponder on the areas in your life that you need to UnBusy so that you can start enjoying life.  Have faith in yourself. You can do it!

Remember, it’s a faith journey y’all.  No matter where you are in the hustle of life, you must have faith.

Tamika W.

P.S. I’m about to tackle these laundry piles.  I suggest you do something too 🙂