4 Habits to Kick as We Get Closer to 2019

Let’s admit it girls. We all have habits that we need to get rid of before we toast cheers to 2019.  Carrying bad habits create unnecessary weights that can ultimately kill us our journey.  When we continue to allow negative habits to plague our lives, slowly but surely the light at the end of the tunnel will become dim.

Your ability to bounce back

is a testimony for your comeback!

Remember your why.  I’m in the process of planning a new venture, which is why I have not been busy with One Faith Journey.  Please forgive me.  (This is my confession girls) I’m having to make sure that I plan out my days, weeks, and the entire month ahead, including how I engage with you.  There are times where we may fall off the wagon a bit or even a few times due to busyness, family changes, work changes but always remember to find ways to bounce back. Your ability to bounce back is a testimony for your comeback!

As we coast into the 4th quarter of the year, ready to make that touch down, let’s commit to get rid of some habits that can and will hold us back from making the best of 2019.  We cannot, I repeat, we cannot take bad habits into 2019.  You are guaranteed to fail if you don’t kick these habits out the door.

  1. The Need to Please– We’ve all been bit by this bug and for some people this is not an issue.  BUT for those of us that have the bite mark still on us I want to encourage you to quit worrying about what others think.  Quit trying to appease to others.  What others think and want from you does not matter in terms of success.  Now don’t get me wrong, you have people in your tribe who want the best for you. They matter.  But for the naysayers, the questioners, the people who feel they have all the answers.  Bye Bye! You have to determine within yourself that no matter where you are on your journey, other people cannot and will not determine your level of joy.
  2. Stop Procrastination– Raise your hand if  you struggle with this! Me! Burning the midnight oil produces my best work.  For real ladies, it does.  But in reality the procrastination bug creates a sense of unnecessary rush and it takes away from my ability to rest.  My mind starts racing with all the words, work, thoughts, ideas trying to put pieces together as I get closer to the deadline.  When you have a deadline to complete a task, allow yourself some time daily to work towards the deadline.  You’ll walk away feeling more confident and accomplished in your work.
  3. Delaying Actions– The bible tells us to write the vision.  So many times we have written out our vision, given it to God and yet, we are afraid to move forward with our actions.  This fear comes because we want to know the outcome.  In this 4th quarter God wants to put our faith to work.  Pray away that fear and put your trust in Him.  There is no way for us to know the outcome for everything unless He shows us.  Your faith will become stronger if you only trust Him.  Your vision will come pass if you only trust Him.  The best thing you can do right now in this 4th quarter is take your leap of faith (and as I’m typing this, I’m speaking to myself).  When God gives you the vision, put your faith to work and watch God work!
  4. Taking on Too Much– I have to keep talking about this because I hear people say how tired they are or how much they are overwhelmed.  I want to encourage you to stop doing the work for people, stop overcommiting yourself, and stop saying yes to things that may take you away from your God-given tasks, tasks that will bring Him glory.  For example, I had to press pause on some tasks at church.  But it’s the work of the Lord, Tamika.  You’re right.  However, my first ministry is at home and when things became overwhelming in all that I was doing in church ministry, home became a second priority and that is not how God calls us to lead as mothers, wives, friends, etc. Take heed to the voice of God and allow Him to direct your path so that you know where your “Yes Lord” answers need to go.  For some it may be comforting a friend in need. For others it may be turning down a girls night out to minister to the homeless.  You may be a wife, daughter, leader, church facilitator or whatever.  When God can get the glory out of all we do, we are giving our best Yes.

Will you join me during this 4th quarter to kick these habits out the window? Will you join in me surrendering our fears, our procrastination, our busy schedules and our need to please over to God?

Here is a simple prayer to get us started on our journey toward a successful 4th quarter:

Lord we come boldly before your throne thanking you for your continuous grace and mercy for it is by your grace that we have not been consumed.  You gave us visions for our homes, our families, our businesses, our jobs, our marriages, and our lives because you know the plans you have for us.  Lord we surrender our fears, our need to please, our procrastination habits, and any other habit that may  hinder us we wrap up the year.  We trust that you will continue to be a lamp unto our feet and guide our paths so that we can give our best yes to your will because you deserve all of the glory.

In Jesus Name,


It’s a faith journey y’all.  We have to be pray for consistency in all facets of our lives so that we can get this touch down into 2019! Feel free to comment on how I can pray with you for a successful year end for your family, your life, your leadership, your business or any area in your life.


Tamika W.

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5 Steps to Finding Your Why

I love this topic of finding our ‘why’ or our purpose!  Why? Because everyone has a purpose.  It has been destined before the beginning of time.  We all have a reason that is often bigger than what we think or believe about ourselves.

If you’re feeling a little stuck in figuring out the purpose of your idea or finding your purpose at all, check out these few steps to help you along the way.  And if you’re feeling stuck, you can listen to Episode 3: I’m Stuck for some encouragement.

Because we serve an awesome God, remember, you are destined for greatness!

4 Steps to Finding Your WHY-1


To Give Life Your Best Yes, Seek Wisdom

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Journey back a few weeks with me when I wrote about this topic of learning to say no so that you can give your best yes.  This idea of the Best Yes comes from a book I read by Lysa TurKest.  Last month, I was all set to start a new series and then one day my little engine said to me, “I can no longer move forward.” It stopped. Screech! Out of gas.  I was in need of some time for rest, reflection and rejuvenation.  After a week off and some thoughtful planning, here we go with the five day challenge of how do we give life our best yes.  Forgot post, check it out here ====>>>> Be Still

Day One Reflection:

Imagine going through life without knowing how to navigate your circumstances; without knowing how to be financially savvy; without knowing right from wrong.  You pretty much know how that would look.  A lot of what we decide comes from knowledge and experience.  When it comes to making decisions, we have to be wise.  Wisdom is defined as “the quality of having experience, knowledge and good judgement” (dictionary.com).  We can all admit that there are times when we don’t make wise decisions.

I remember I paid my car off, was six months in my new house, and was making good money as an educator.  In previous years, I helped with the after school program and was told that I would be over the program in the upcoming school year. In my mind, I calculated extra money means I can go buy the car I’ve been eyeing for a few months now.  And I did just that.  I bought a new car. Lo and behold, new administration came in the building and decided to use the old program coordinator, and that meant no extra money for me.  Needless to say, I struggled a few months after buying the car.  I knew that was not a wise decision.  I was quick to satisfy my wants at the time and not my needs.

What does this all mean you may be asking.  Sometimes we cannot give our best yes to the right things because we lack wisdom in saying no.  When we give in to our wants, give in to our fleshly desires, give in to others, we leave no room for what really should be taking place in our lives.  Maybe like me, you made a bad financial decision or maybe you’ve taken on too many tasks and you’re overwhelmed.  It happens to us all.

Let’s think about what would happen if we were wise in our decision-making.  The bible tells us in Psalm 111:10 the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.  The fear here is not talking about being afraid or scared but it is about reverence and honoring God.  When we reverence and honor Him, we know that we cannot do anything without him.  That means we cannot and should not make decisions without Him.  We’ve tried many times in our life to do things on our own, without seeking God and end up crawling right back to Him for direction.  Hello, that’s why Proverbs tells us to trust in the Lord with ALL of our heart and do not lean on your understanding.  Doing things your way?  Tell me how that’s working out for you.  In my car situation, it didn’t work out too good.

“When we have a reverential attitude and look for the hand of God in everything, we start seeing things from the perspective of wisdom.”

The Best Yes Study Guide

So how should we go about getting wisdom and getting better at making wise decisions?  First things first, honor and reverence God at all times.  Acknowledge Him in everything.

  1. Read God’s word.  Make it a habit to dive in the Word consistently.  C  Sometimes we are so busy doing other things or managing our daily lives, that our study time is not a priority.  Let’s all do better (if we are not already) and make it a priority this week.
  2. Apply God’s word.  When the word of God tells us how to forgive, let’s give it a shot.  Forgiveness is huge in our faith walk.  When the word shows us how to increase our faith, let’s give it shot.  Faith is important in our daily journey.  Where the word tells us to show love, let’s do that.  Loving others can be hard at times but your love for someone could be the very thing that leads them to Christ.
  3. Look to God. The scriptures give us direct insight to Christ and how to live.  When we don’t have an answer, ask God wisdom and understanding.  God’s word promises to give us what we need.
  4. Cry out to God. Pray out loud to God and ask Him for what you need.  Ask Him for instruction.  Ask Him for insight.  Ask for guidance.  And when you ask, believe with your whole heart that He will answer your prayer.

In life we have choices.  We can choose to honor God daily, even in our decisions.  For every situation we face, there is an answer.  Think about a situation you may be facing.  Ask yourself ‘what does the Word of God say about my situation?’ Find a scripture and pray the Word over your situation.  Continue to seek wisdom so that you can give life your best yes!

Stay tuned for Day Two Reflection: The Powerful No

What areas of life have you made unwise decisions? How did you overcome? Comment. Like. Share.

Remember, its a faith journey y’all!

Tamika W.


3 Ways to Keep Your Faith In Check

eye-female-funny-glass-41558.jpegLet’s admit it girls. Some days, weeks, months or seasons get so busy we may forget to check in with God consistently.  I know as a mom, if I’m not conscious about how I’m spending my time, prayer and devotion just might escape me.  Not good. But we are human.  Sometimes we get caught up in the rush of life that we limit our relationship with God to a few minutes here and there just to check it off the to-do list. Done.  But you and I both know when we put God on the to-do list, life seems to get a SUPER crazy. Out of whack. And when the dust settles, we look at how we have put God on a shelf like a book. The thing I like about our God is that He knows and He will definitely nudge us to remind us when we are drifting away.

I keep telling you that I’m working on being calendar driven-some days are better than others.  What is important is that we carve out meaningful time with God.  Maybe you don’t know where to start and honey that is ok as long as you start.  Or in my case restart.  The time we spend with God has be intentional and consistent as it helps us draw closer to Him, grow in our faith, and experience everlasting peace and joy in Him.

There are many ways to spend time with Him-prayer, reading His word, singing His praises, joining a women’s group or even sharing His goodness with others.  If you feel that you are drifting away or need quick ways to keep your faith in check, how about this:

  1. Set aside some time each day to read a devotional or simply open the bible and read it.  There are a million devotionals online and in print that are connected to God’s word and His principles for life. Try this FREE 30-day devotional and bible reading guide created just for busy women like us.  Click here for your FREEBIE ====>> 30 Days with God
  2. Spend the first 5 minutes of your day in prayer and giving thanks to God for His many blessings.  What a great way to get your day going.  But… if the first 5 minutes does not work for you (not a morning person like me), be sure to carve out some quiet time throughout the day-on your lunch break, when the kiddos are napping, when the household is sleeping. You get it.
  3. Share your faith and testimonies of your experiences with others.  Not only will you inspire someone else but you will be reminded of just how good God is to you.  You can do this by joining a group online or in your church or posting your blessings instead of your messiness.  Doing so is a great way to stay connected to the Master and a way to get people connected to Him.

Maybe you are not in a dry season in your faith. Or maybe you know someone who is. Whatever it may be, I would love to hear from you on ways you keep your faith in check.  Leave a comment, like, & share. I’m sure it will inspire others 😉

Remember, it’s a faith journey y’all.  No matter where you are in the hustle of life, you got to have faith!

Tamika W.