Goals for the Gold

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Today I was thinking about my goal-setting habits and realized that I need to refine this habit to be more productive and efficient for my short and long-term goals.  As I was thinking about goal-setting (or my lack thereof lately), I thought about the Olympics.  As much as I love sports, I’m not a fan of the Olympics but this past winter, I was intrigued by the 2018 Winter Olympics for some reason.  You would not believe which sport I watched and kept track of? Definitely not skiing. Bobsledding or as said in the olympic world ‘bobsleigh’.  I’m not sure why I was interested but I tuned in during my morning breaks to catch up or watch live.  I learned so many interesting facts about the sport:

  1. The first push of acceleration is very important.
  2. The pilot and brakeman have to be in sync with one another with timely jumps into the sled.
  3. Flexibility is key as you fit two bodies into a tiny sled. Some on their heels while the driver sits.
  4. Friction can slow you down and cause you to lose the race by hundredths of a second.
  5. The pilot sees everything.  One pilots said he never tells his teammates about what’s ahead and tells them it was a good trip.
  6. Physics plays a huge part in bobsledding. Sledders have to be very careful of their moves to avoid crashing.

So how does this relate to setting goals Tamika? Simple.

1. Pushing yourself to get started on your goals is very important.  The first push propels you; it gets your started.

2. Timeliness is important.  There is nothing like setting a goal to get something completed in a week and you haven’t considered your family, your work schedule, or other things you are working on as well.  Make sure you set realistic goals while considering other tasks on your schedule.

3. When hammering out your plan, be flexible.  If you set out to read daily for 30 minutes and something comes up, find ways to squeeze some time in or spread the extra minutes throughout the week.

4.  What are some things that bring hindrance to your life? Consider the “friction” and find ways to avoid it so that you don’t lose sight of your goal.

5.  This is my favorite one. Who is the pilot in your life? In bobsledding the pilot plays a huge role in the success of the team.  My pilot is God.  He sees everything that lies ahead of us.  He guides our path and gives us what we need to be successful.

6. You have the power to put things in motion.  Just put little force behind it, some motivation that is. We are already in August.  The third quarter of the year is coming to a close soon folks.  What declarations did you make over your life?  What daily affirmations are you telling yourself to push you closer to your dreams?  What goals do you need to set in order to end 2018 with shouting bang?

I know we live in an virtual, online world.  Shopping, chatting, connecting with people are all at our finger tips.  HOWEVER…. There is something about the power of writing.  The formation of the letters as you write.  Write out your goals. The pen, the paper and your brain will connect when you do this.  It’s powerful y’all!

In order to live your best life, you have to stop wishing and start working so take your first step toward your destiny.  Write your goals to win the gold!

Need help with goals for your marriage?  Check out our latest podcast Faith & Marriage: Making Time for Spouse & Self Episode 5.

Need a reality check about your progress? Check out Progress Ain’t Pretty.

Ready to celebrate some successes big or small? Read this post for some ideas/inspiration Celebration Time 4 You! 

Remember, it’s a faith journey y’all!

Blessings, blessings, and more blessings to you!

Tamika W.

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As I Look Back, I Can Move Forward

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We are creatures of habit, often looking back over the years at our losses and gains.  How we let go of friendships, but gained a closer circle.  How we let go of bad relationships, but found a closeness with ourselves.  How we lost a battle, but renewed our strength.  I too find myself looking back at some losses but counting my blessings as I move forward.  Life is a continuous journey of learning and growing.  Without this process, we would be like the tree planted but not bearing any fruit.

I recently went on a family vacation to the beach and can I be honest?  I didn’t think about anything related to my blog, podcast social media posts, products, services, etc.  NOTHING! Sometimes you just have to turn it all off.  The weather forecast called for heavy rain and thunder but I thought we left it at the beach.  When I hit the interstate, I could see the storm ahead and it didn’t look anything pretty.  I began to slow down and just pray.  It was that bad.  The wind was howling and the trees were bowing to the ground.  The rain poured so hard I was unable to see.  Cars were passing me full speed ahead but I drove at a steady pace and I just kept whispering Jesus’s name.  What felt like an hour only last 10 minutes.  As I drove out of the storm, the sun broke through the clouds and as I looked ahead, it looked as if the interstate didn’t even encounter a storm.  I looked back in my rear view mirror, and I could see the storm behind me.  One by one cars came out of the storm behind me unharmed. The roads were clear. No water. No debris. I made it through the storm.

The Lord reminded me that my storms are just like the one I described.  On this journey called life, there will be some days we can see the storms coming ahead.  We must keep our minds on Jesus the entire time.  No matter how hard the wind blows. No matter what other people are doing in their lives to pass you by. No matter if there are times we cannot see what lies ahead.  If we keep our minds on Jesus, like it says in the scripture, He will give us peace.  Have you ever seen someone who was in a fight?  Their hair is a mess, clothes all tattered, they are out of breath.  A hot mess I’ll say.  Job 23:10 says “He knows the way I take and when He has tried me, I will come out as pure gold.”  When the storm is over, it won’t even look like we’ve been through a storm.  But we have to keep our focus on Christ. We have to tune our ears, eyes and heart to His words and His promises. I learned a long time ago that I can make all the plans I want to but it is Christ who directs my path (Proverbs 16:9).

I looked back in my rear view mirror and I believe God was reminding me of what He brought me through.  I didn’t look back like Lot’s wife, with a desire to return in my heart, for I had no desire to turn around but it definitely was a reminder that God keeps His promises:

  • He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6)
  • He delivers us from our afflictions (Psalm 34:17-20)
  • He supplies all of our needs (Philippians 4:19)

It’s ok to look back at the storms God delivered you from so that you can praise Him and be prepared for the future storms He’ll carry you through.  The old song says “count your blessings, name them one by one. Count your many blessings to see what God has done!”

On this journey, we will all encounter storms.  Call His name. Stick close to Him. Praise Him.  He will deliver you! How will you honor God, our sovereign Creator, when you look back in order to move forward? I would love to hear some testimonies and praises! Feel free to share!

Remember, it’s a faith journey y’all.  No matter where you are in life, you must have faith!

Tamika W.

PS. I’m excited to announce our Episode 5: Faith & Marriage-How to Make Time for Yourself & Your Spouse.  We will have a Q & A post on our social media outlets Friday so make sure you are following us @1faithjourney on Twitter, Facebook & Instagram to participate.

 

Progress Ain’t Pretty

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****Originally posted June 16, 2018 on http://www.mzimperfect.com as a guest post****

Recently a friend of mine started a bathroom renovation project. She showed us pictures of the bathroom before, during and after. On the first day of renovation, she knew that things would look a little messy but when she sent the picture to her girls, they were expecting something different. Every day she checked on the progress. Some days it looked fine and others it looked messy. But, there was some progress.

I am not sure who told me that taking on your dreams would be easy. That I would not be exhausted some days. That my patience would fluctuate. That my confidence would be tested. When chasing your dreams-an idea, a book deal, a business venture, a new career-you can organize your days, take a thousand courses, meet with expert after expert, but in order to succeed, you have to understand that your ability to bounce back will help you in the long run.

According to CNN Money, more than 44 million people have a dream (side hustle is their term) they are working. Even with all of the experts in your dream field, you’re going to get overwhelmed by the many one-size-fits-all dream routes. You will encounter naysayers. You will find that some days you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. Through it all, what are you expected to do? Push through it with courage and faith despite how tough it gets.

Having courage and faith is connected to your bounce back down the road. No matter what valley you may experience, trust me, there are resources and tools to help. I call those tools faith strengthening and conditioning because when you keep hammering your way through, your faith becomes stronger.

You condition your mind, body, and soul to do the impossible. With faith strengthening and conditioning you begin to position yourself as if it already exists. So where can you find these tools, you may ask. It’s really simple. Nothing you have to purchase. No video to watch. No list to subscribe to at this time. Real. Simple.

  1. Share your story. Your ability to climb the mountain to reach your dreams has a powerful story connected to it. Create a safe space for others to learn about your progress. Share the ups and downs, the highs and lows. People will tune in because you keep it real and because you are living proof.
  2. Celebrate the small successes. Often we look for big results and forget about the little steps along the journey that helped us reach the dream. Without those small steps, you may not have made it to the big achievement. Remember, success comes in all shapes, sizes and forms.
  3. Be open to change. Every day on your journey will not look the same. Your routines may change. Your circle of influence may change. Your dreams may even change. The best thing you can do prepare for the change by focusing your time and energy where you can have an impact.
  4. Highlight what works best for you. Refrain from always focusing on what is not working. Of course you’ll have to put what’s not working into perspective but the problem comes in when we constantly focus on the negative. Think about what is working for you and WHY it is working. Sometimes this will give us insight on our journey and believe me, it will help you push through the muddy days as well.
  5. Self-care is the best care. When you feel sick, take a break. When you are overwhelmed, press pause. Many times we can’t climb the mountain toward our dreams because we are physically and mentally worn out. There is only one you and you have to take care of yourself. Don’t be pressured to burn the midnight oil with a sore throat or with heavy eyes. How effective will you be with no sleep or if you can’t talk?

When you experience a low point, know that you have to bounce back. The bible tells us that God will bless us with the desires of heart but we are to not become weary in doing good. You can’t give up. You can’t rest too long in the valley. Chasing your dreams is complicated. You will experience burn out. The progress on your journey ain’t pretty but if you try those simple tools mentioned and keep sprinkling your life with faith, you will bounce back in time to enjoy the journey.

Remember, it’s a faith journey y’all!

Tamika W.


3 Ways to Keep Your Faith In Check

eye-female-funny-glass-41558.jpegLet’s admit it girls. Some days, weeks, months or seasons get so busy we may forget to check in with God consistently.  I know as a mom, if I’m not conscious about how I’m spending my time, prayer and devotion just might escape me.  Not good. But we are human.  Sometimes we get caught up in the rush of life that we limit our relationship with God to a few minutes here and there just to check it off the to-do list. Done.  But you and I both know when we put God on the to-do list, life seems to get a SUPER crazy. Out of whack. And when the dust settles, we look at how we have put God on a shelf like a book. The thing I like about our God is that He knows and He will definitely nudge us to remind us when we are drifting away.

I keep telling you that I’m working on being calendar driven-some days are better than others.  What is important is that we carve out meaningful time with God.  Maybe you don’t know where to start and honey that is ok as long as you start.  Or in my case restart.  The time we spend with God has be intentional and consistent as it helps us draw closer to Him, grow in our faith, and experience everlasting peace and joy in Him.

There are many ways to spend time with Him-prayer, reading His word, singing His praises, joining a women’s group or even sharing His goodness with others.  If you feel that you are drifting away or need quick ways to keep your faith in check, how about this:

  1. Set aside some time each day to read a devotional or simply open the bible and read it.  There are a million devotionals online and in print that are connected to God’s word and His principles for life. Try this FREE 30-day devotional and bible reading guide created just for busy women like us.  Click here for your FREEBIE ====>> 30 Days with God
  2. Spend the first 5 minutes of your day in prayer and giving thanks to God for His many blessings.  What a great way to get your day going.  But… if the first 5 minutes does not work for you (not a morning person like me), be sure to carve out some quiet time throughout the day-on your lunch break, when the kiddos are napping, when the household is sleeping. You get it.
  3. Share your faith and testimonies of your experiences with others.  Not only will you inspire someone else but you will be reminded of just how good God is to you.  You can do this by joining a group online or in your church or posting your blessings instead of your messiness.  Doing so is a great way to stay connected to the Master and a way to get people connected to Him.

Maybe you are not in a dry season in your faith. Or maybe you know someone who is. Whatever it may be, I would love to hear from you on ways you keep your faith in check.  Leave a comment, like, & share. I’m sure it will inspire others 😉

Remember, it’s a faith journey y’all.  No matter where you are in the hustle of life, you got to have faith!

Tamika W.